Nailing It + The Leibster Award

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Girls, prepare yourselves for a photo-heavy post (for me) because there are three things that are going to make this a longer post than the norm:

  1. I am wearing a 1940’s crushed velvet cape. That right there is reason enough to post like 100 pictures.
  2. I want to look like this (sans cape) forever and always every day. There is something about this outfit that is just 100% ME — the mix of patterns, the polka dots, the perfect retro shoes, the fact that it is nearly entirely thrifted/vintage, the casual feel even though it’s a skirt and heels… and the fact that it just makes me feel like a bombshell while I can still interact with the toddler and not fear that dirt will require special care (aka, I can throw it all in the washer.) I don’t often do this, but today I looked in the mirror and I thought “DANG, you are killing it today!” So, suffice it to say… I really love this outfit. And did I mention the cape?
  3. Sara Lily tagged me in the Liebster Award post she just wrote!

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If you aren’t sure what a Liebster award is, it’s a fun way to share more about yourself and — if people partake — learning more about your favorite bloggers. I haven’t done a Liebster in YEARS — all sorts of blog awards passed around before I ever started fashion blogging and I partook in quite a few. But then I started running out of interesting things to say and while I have been tagged for several in the past two or so years, I kind of let them slide. Because I can only think of so many random facts about myself, you guys.

But the rules are: list 11 random facts about yourself, answer 11 questions put forth in the post, and tag 11 bloggers whom you admire and would like to know more about. So here goes!

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11 Random Facts About Me:

  1. Like Sara, I used to write novels all the time. It’s actually what this blog started from — I posted my stories online, and then decided I wanted a place to write about my random thoughts, which then morphed into posting daily outfits when I started wanting to feel more beautiful… and it grew from there. I  no longer have the time to write, although I ache to create beautiful love stories again (yes, I am your somewhat stereotypical romance novelist… kind of…) but for now I’m accepting the fact that this blog is my writing outlet, and I only pen the occasional poem or idea.
  2. I am the youngest child and I have three older brothers and no sisters. I never wanted a sister, I was glad my parents didn’t have more girls, and to this day I think it’s hilarious when people feel sorry for me that I had to grow up with three brothers. But guys, I had protection. And also it meant I got my own room always. And also, never had to share clothes or toys, so…
  3. Because I had brothers and no sisters, I never wanted a daughter until I got pregnant with Asa and my husband admitted HE wanted a girl. It didn’t take me too long to warm up to the idea, though, and while I wasn’t disappointed at all that Asa is a boy — because I wanted a boy first anyway — I might have been a little disappointed if Evie had also been a boy. Because by that time, I realized girls are fun, too!
  4. I am an artist, though I haven’t picked up a pencil to draw in a long time. And if I can say so myself, I am pretty good. I took art lessons for about 6 months and sorely wish I could have taken them longer to learn more techniques than I already know! My favorite thing to draw (and paint, and photograph too) has always been faces. I’m particularly fond of this one:Nailing It + The Leibster Award |
  5. I also play the piano — and have since I was four — sing, and occasionally write songs. At one point I started to write a rock-opera/musical, (side note, old video, bad quality, lots of errors) but I don’t think I’ll ever finish that. I never write down my music (the lyrics, yes, the notes, no) so I nearly always have to record myself playing so that I can listen to things later and make sure I don’t forget my compositions.Nailing It + The Leibster Award |
  6. Aside from loving Owls, I am also a cat lover, and it is proof how much I love my husband that I gave up my cat of 9 years for our marriage. Mostly because our rentals can’t have cats, and my mom is allergic so she couldn’t keep my cat, so we gave her to a family that loves her (I hope.)
  7. Unlike many Paleo-enthusiasts, I eat mostly Paleo (or try to) because I have to. Wheat gives me heartburn, makes me stuffy/groggy in the morning and inhibits my sleep at night, dairy gives me headaches/indigestion/gas/sometimes bloody stool (TMI? Sorry) if I go too far, and legumes give me terrible stomach aches. All of my mysterious aches and pains completely disappear when I clean up my diet. And I’m not a perfect eater, by any means, but it’s habitual now to avoid dairy, grains, and legumes. But I still really love Mexican food and cake, so… it’s a hard life. 😉
  8. I have trypophobia, which is not strictly a fear so much as an extreme discomfort over images, surfaces, or other things that form multiple small holes in a surface — like these images. (DO NOT click if you’re trypophobic, you will die) Personally, perfect holes don’t bother me but if the edges of the holes are uneven and jagged, I just can’t. The worst for me in real life are empty barnacles all gathered together, lava rock, certain types of coral, and those frogs that carry eggs on their backs. I literately cannot make myself look directly at those things.
  9. I used to hate cleaning of any sort, and was the worst housewife when I first got married, but after Asa started to become mobile and I was forced to clean more, I have started to like it. Getting the kitchen clean is one of the most satisfying things ever, and I rarely go to bed without doing the dishes any more.
  10. I was not allowed to watch many of the Disney Princess movies growing up — Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, The Little Mermaid — so when you say Disney I usually think Beauty and the Beast, The Jungle Book, or Fox and the Hound. Also, I asked my parents if I could watch PG-13 movies probably until I was 16, aaand I don’t think I saw my first R rated movie until I was… I don’t even know how old. But I’m okay with all that. It just means I have really selective and good movie taste now.
  11. I can type somewhere over 110 words per minute, and I’m pretty sure it’s due to my constant practice typing when I was little. Before I could even spell, I would mimic my mom typing — and at the time I thought she was the fastest typist ever. Now, I think I’m faster than her.

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And now, the Q&A portion!

1. What inspired you to start a blog?
Like I said above, I used to write novels, and then I wanted to have a place to write random thoughts. Fashion blogging came about after I discovered What I Wore and Selective Potential, and challenged myself to wear skirts every day for a week. I later started posting my own fashion photos… and the rest is history!

2. Who is your favorite style icon?
My grandma — my dad’s mom. I didn’t really have a single icon until I discovered pictures of her when she was my age, and OH MY GOODNESS. We’re not blood related (my dad is adopted) but I want to be like her. She was so fashionable in her day:

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(She’s on the left in the left picture, and the right in the right picture. THAT SKIRT. THAT COAT. AH.) Otherwise, my style inspiration is always my fellow bloggers, who are gorgeous and insanely stylish!

3. Can you name two of your favorite bloggers and explain why they are your favorites?
It fluctuates so much, but right now I absolutely adore Kara of The Dressed Aesthetic and Lauren of Paper Mothball Vintage. Kara is a marine biologist with a special love for sharks and vintage dresses, and she has THE most amazing wardrobe I have ever seen. Her blog posts are always interesting, whether they be thoughtful, funny, or retrospective, and I just love the fact that she is an incredibly smart woman who dresses in the most feminine way possible! Lauren was a model, and now works on the other side of the lens as well as showing off her fashion and creating many of the things that she wears, and she has always inspired me with her gorgeous and on-point vintage looks from every different era, her photography, her framing, and her attention to detail. Her blog is like looking at the most beautiful magazine!

4. What’s one wardrobe essential you can’t live without?
Right now, as a breastfeeding mama, tee shirts with stretchy necks or crop tops I can wear with high waisted skirts! I’m not much for button-up tops, and prefer the casual look of a good tee shirt. So, if I can pull down the neck, that’s the best, but crops also work well because they’re FAR easier to move out of the way to nurse Evie, and also way easier to tuck back into a skirt.

5. How would you describe your blogging style?
I’ve been trying to figure this out for a while. I suppose… a bit storyteller, a bit rambling, focused on sharing casual and thrifty vintage looks that are still beautiful while being practical for every day. And narrating life as it is at the moment, whatever that moment might be.

6. What is your greatest achievement outside of blogging?
Is it lame to say making it through two births unmedicated? I mean… because I am the person who HATES pain. I am afraid of getting shocked by arbitrary things like static from the carpet, for goodness sake, yet I had Asa and Evie with no pain medication whatsoever. I went through three days of intense false labor with Asa, and Evie’s labor was so painful I threw up. And also, pushing a baby out in five minutes. I am impressed by myself with that one. So that’s a pretty big achievement.

7. What was the last book you read?
Can I list the book I’m currently reading? Because it would be Tell The Wolves I’m Home, which I bought at Goodwill based solely on the cover (I do that a lot…) and so far it’s really sad and interesting and I can’t wait to see where it goes!

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8. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
It’s a very close call between Ireland and New Zealand. Ireland, my heart has been yearning for since I was little for no particular reason really, but the more I read about it the more I want to go. And New Zealand, well. I’m a nerd, and let’s just say I REALLY need to visit Hobbiton.

9. Where do you see yourself in five years?
I will probably have at least one more kid and maybe be pregnant again (yeah, we want five or more), and I will hopefully have finally finished and published Sweet Ireland Air, which I have often said is the novel I would publish first.

10. What was the first movie or book that made an impact on your life?
I think Jane Eyre has always had the biggest influence on me and my writing and my life. I want to craft love stories like that, and realized a few years ago that many of my stories are based around a moody man with a secret, probably because my first love was totally Edward Rochester. It’s been my favorite book since I was about seven or eight, and I can read that novel over and over again and still see new things. And oh, Edward Rochester, love of my fantasy life… my husband knows full well that Rochester is a lifelong crush of mine. I even have Edward on the list of names I would give one of my sons… or at least I did, until Twilight came along. Sigh. #RochesterOverDarcyAnyDay

11. What advice would you give someone who just started blogging?
Learn from those you admire the most, don’t quit just because you see someone better, and always do what YOU love instead of copying someone else! I still haunt my favorite blogs for inspiration and to just learn — anything from blog design to photography to outfits to how to do my hair, I learn from the bloggers around me.  But while i take inspiration and lots of lessons from bloggers I admire, I always make sure to put my own spin on whatever inspiration I’m posting, because over everything else, authenticity and hard work is the key. Nobody wants to see a copycat or a halfhearted post! But that doesn’t mean you can’t be inspired by those around you, or post something silly just because it makes you laugh.

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Top, Target | vintage skirt, belt, and heels, thrifted | 1940’s crushed velvet cape, gift

And I would love to have these lovely women participate:

Hannah of The Outfit Repeater
Skye of My Kingdom for a Hat
Lyndsey of Dressed in Mascara
Emily of Bread and Roses Vintage
Rebecca of Three Things Great
Elana of Room 334
Nicole of Writes Like a Girl
Salazar of 14 Shades of Grey
Katie of Butterfly Loves Snapdragons
Heather of The Arbitrary Fox
Jamie of Petite Panoply

I hope you all have a fantastic weekend! Happy Friday!


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Out of my Comfort Zone

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You probably wouldn’t think it looking at the print of this dress and given my history of addiction to florals, but this entire outfit has taken me out of my comfort zone. And I very nearly didn’t include the above picture at all, but Marlen recently wrote an article about why she makes herself wear “unflattering” clothes, and it inspired me to push my personal boundaries.

See, I just had a baby. I have not tried to lose any of that baby weight yet, because it’s only been a month and we’re still establishing things like breast milk supply and nighttime sleeping routines, and pursuing active weight loss really isn’t healthy for me at this moment (mentally or physically!). And I am totally okay with that fact in my head, that I still have the baby belly going and my hips are wider than they ever have been and I’m currently sitting at the number that, four or five years ago, was the heaviest and most ashamed of my weight I had ever been. It’s a season all moms go through, and it’s necessary, and while I’m looking forward to losing those extra pounds I am 100% okay with waiting until it’s a healthy time to do so.

But put me in something that shows off that baby belly and those wider hips, and it’s an entirely different story. I want to hide the belly. I want people to think “she just had a baby? no way!” not ask me “oh, when are you due?” when they see me with newborn socks at the store.

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Plus, I tend to avoid high necklines and this particular hairstyle because I think those two things make my face look rounder, my neck look shorter, and my shoulders look wider.

But styling this dress, I remembered Marlen’s article and thought… why not? Why not wear a dress that reveals my baby belly, a hairstyle that might emphasize my round cheeks, a length that could potentially be stumpifying? Why not wear tights and ankle straps even though those things aren’t doing anything to lengthen my legs? Why not challenge the do’s and don’t’s of fashion rules? And more, why not challenge my own comfort zone and just go for it? Because overall, I think this hair works with this dress, and these shoes are fun, somehow this dress length makes me look taller, and these tights pull the colors of the dress.

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While I probably won’t be grabbing this cut of dress to wear very often, I think it’s good to challenge my comfort zones once in a while. I think it’s just fine to wear things that I feel comfortable and beautiful in, but it’s also good to wear something I think I can’t pull off because you know what? I might just surprise myself. I might discover that I can wear more cuts than I thought I could, or that I really just don’t care about my belly showing or my hips being emphasized because it’s just who I am, and I’m okay with that. And maybe I don’t care what the rules of fashion are because sometimes you just want to wear what you like, and who cares if that isn’t necessarily flattering? Who made up the rules for flattering anyway? Who says it’s not flattering to have a belly or wider hips… or no curves at all, for that matter?

Who made the rules that you have to have a perfectly proportioned body, that you have to create an hourglass figure, that you can’t be apple shaped or pear shaped or ruler shaped or whatever the heck shape you really are? It’s your body; if you feel good wearing that “unflattering” garment, wear it! If you like the colors and feel fun, wear them! And don’t let anybody tell you differently.

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Dress, for sale in my Etsy shop | shoes, Forever 21 (old) | tights, Target | earrings, c/o Rocksbox

And to change subject entirely, these earrings are the second piece Rocksbox sent in my first jewelry box, and they are so gorgeous! I loved the color immediately so these were a piece in my wishlist, and they lived up to my expectations when they arrived! Dangly, colorful, and a little bit costume-jewelry-ish? That is totally my thing.

If you want a few boxes of pretty things in the mail, you can use the code eccentricowlblogxoxo  to get your first month of Rocksbox entirely free! And stay tuned for the last piece from this box!

Happy Thursday!


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Painting the Roses Red

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With it being October, I have costumes on my mind. Growing up, we didn’t celebrate Halloween at all; when the 31st came around ours was the dark house with nobody that answered and occasionally brothers who wanted to hide under piles of leaves outside and scare anyone who walked past. We have really only lived in a neighborhood twice as it is — once in a small town when I was between the ages of 9-13, and once right after Mr. Owl and I started dating. So to have the non-treat house wasn’t as big of a deal most of the time, and most of my own disappointment with Halloween was the fact that I, as a girl who loved costumes, could not get all dressed up as Belle or a Victorian lady and run around with my friends pretending to be someone we were not. I didn’t even care about the candy, I just wanted the costumes!

But after I got married, having grown up not celebrating (other than the occasional Harvest Festival at various churches), my husband pointed out that he didn’t think he wanted to strictly forbid Halloween for our kids.

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Mainly because many of Asa’s cousins go trick-or-treating, and for us it really is nothing more than a fun event for our kids to get together with their cousins and have some innocent fun. It’s bonding time, time to let them express creativity through coming up with a costume, and time to get candy that otherwise they probably don’t get that often. Or for us, time for Asa to use his cute cheeks to score us a bucket of goodies. HA! (Okay, this year he’s old enough to have some of that candy.) And for my husband and I, it’s probably the only time we ever get to dress up in costume and go out, something we both love doing.

So when I was thrifting on Monday, my primary goal was finding pieces I can add to my closet that also work for costumes. And when I saw this skirt, I immediately thought of Alice in Wonderland, and the song where the cards are painting the roses red.

I knew I needed it as soon as I saw it, of course, but add to the fact that it has pockets and an elastic waistline AND it’s nearly a circle skirt and I was 100% sold. Plus, I can add it to my list of Halloween costumes I will be creating from my closet (whether I’ll do a different incarnation of the Red Queen — here’s last year’s — or I’ll be a rosebush, I don’t know yet) this year for blog posts. I can’t wait!Painting the Roses Red |
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And now I want to switch gears for a minute and talk about jewelry! More specifically, Rocksbox. Quite a few fantastic bloggers have been sharing their experiences with this company, and I’m excited to join ranks. Rocksbox is a super fun subscription service wherein for $19 a month, you get three pieces of jewelry at a time that you can “borrow” for as long or short as you like (with unlimited swapping of boxes in each month). You start out by taking a style quiz and adding pieces of jewelry to your wishlist. Then, a personal stylist makes those wishes come true, usually choosing an item from your list to style two other pieces or jewelry around for you. If you adore the pieces, you can buy them for a good discount; if you didn’t like something, you can let your stylist know. And when you’re done borrowing the jewelry, you send it back in its box and a new one is sent to you!

The bracelet I’m wearing here is one of the three pieces that was in my first box. (I have two more posts coming with the other pieces!) I am not much of a bracelet wearer, since most bracelets are far too large for my wrist, and sadly this one turned out too big too, even with its adjustable feature. But it was far too pretty not to wear anyway! The delicate silver band has tiny little diamonds embedded in it for just the right amount of sparkle, and I loved how it was easy to wear with an everyday outfit but could have also been styled with something fancier.

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I am really excited to share the other pieces and also to return them and try out a few new pieces of jewelry! It really is my kind of subscription box — who doesn’t love getting shiny things in the mail every month?

If you want to try Rocksbox (and I highly recommend you do!) you can have a first month entirely free! Just sign up, and enter the code eccentricowlblogxoxo and try it out! And don’t worry, it’s super easy to cancel if you decide getting swappable jewelry is just not your thing. (But WHY would it not be?)

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shirt, c/o Choies | skirt and heels, thrifted | bracelet, c/o Rocksbox | glasses c/o Firmoo

I hope you are all having a wonderful week so far!

Happy Wednesday!


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Evie Rose: One Month Old

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I have so many posts backlogged right now – a lifestyle newborn photoshoot of us taken by my niece, several outfits styled from Etsy garments, a couple outfits I wore in everyday life, a new sponsorship, newborn pictures of Evie (and some with Asa) I want to share – but today Evie is an entire month old (can you believe it? I can’t!) and since I never did the month-to-month thing with Asa in photos, I thought I’d better keep track with her!

In this past month I feel like she has changed so much! Her features are becoming more defined and she is becoming such a delicate looking baby with killer long eyelashes. Much like Asa, she only ever cries when she’s hungry, or occasionally when she’s tired, and otherwise is such a content baby. She’s very alert and awake during the day when she IS awake (which is quite often, actually), and sleeps well at night, only waking up and staying awake long enough to eat. She is just starting to recognize voices, and smiles most often at Asa. Which figures, seeing as how she is definitely his favorite person in our family right now.

She seems to be growing long very fast, and only in the last week has gained enough weight to put a roll or two in her thighs. Length wise, she’s just about long enough for 3 month sized clothing, but we’re still waiting for her to chub up more. 😉

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Motherhood-of-two-kids wise, it continues to be easier than I had imagined it would be, and the baby blues that I was experiencing are completely gone! So now, I am just soaking up as much of her newborn-baby-ness as I can, and taking what time I have when she doesn’t insist on napping on me (which happens most often) to play with Asa and watch him grow into a little boy.

Life with this girl is good.

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Faith and fashion blogging

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A long while ago, I mentioned on social media that I wanted to know whether people would be curious or receptive to my writing about my faith on my blog. I had realized then that I never verbalize what I believe, what I disagree with, or really what moral standards I live my life by other than to perhaps in passing say that I am a Christian. The response to my question was overwhelmingly “yes, please share!” even by people whom I know do not share my beliefs, so I wrote a post about faith… and never published it.

Then more recently, on my personal Facebook, I wrote a long status about why I have an issue with a certain well-known and very controversial-subject-pusher religious blogger that many of my friends tend to share and agree with, and it was then that I realized why I rarely (if ever) vocalize more on my faith on social media. I don’t tend to write controversial or even personal blog posts on highly debated topics of faith, what I do and don’t believe, what I can condone and what I believe is right or wrong. I don’t know that I have ever once mentioned these things in detail publicly, in all honesty, and for a while I thought perhaps I was a “bad” Christian for not utilizing my small space of internet to highlight more of what I believe. So many bloggers who affiliate with the Christian faith do write a lot about what they think on the right-or-wrong topics of today, and for me to stay out of it felt, on a peer-pressure level, like I wasn’t doing my part. Faith and fashion blogging |

But after I penned my thoughts about that certain blogger, more specifically how I believed that blogger went against everything that is said about a wise man in Proverbs — which I have been reading lately — I realized that it was okay. It was okay if I didn’t jump in with my opinion on the Josh Duggar scandals, or whether it’s better to be pro-life or pro-choice, or if I identify as a feminist or not. It was okay if I was reluctant to write my views on divorce or abortion or the LGBTQ community (the three things I see that seem to be the most bashed thing from Christians) into a blog post that would be out there for everyone to have a reaction to. It’s totally okay to keep my thoughts to myself when I see internet debates about whether it’s immodest to wear leggings or show cleavage or paint your nails red (seriously, guys, I have seen that last one happen.)

And it’s not because I am afraid to share what I believe with anyone that I tend to not write about these things. Yes, I would be reluctant to be the fodder for an angry debate or an irate response from either side should I voice what I think in public media. I don’t like angry people, I don’t like being the target of negativity, and I don’t like making people upset. But were I to be asked directly and privately, I would not dodge the question. My blogging friends who have brought up “controversial” subjects with me in personal conversations know that to be true.

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But there is a very important aspect to sharing my beliefs that I think is completely lost when writing a blog post about something that not everyone will agree with. And that is the fact that you cannot have any real personal connection or understanding when it’s all just in a blog post. There’s no person-to-person dialogue when it’s a spillage of words onto the internet, regardless of how kindly or clearly things are said. There’s no way to clarify a point that came across in a way you did not mean. And, more importantly, not everyone needs to know what I think on these subjects that the world loves to argue about.

Why not? Well, for one thing, I’ll go back to Proverbs. In my readings, I’ve been writing down everything the Bible says about a wise man. And a few of the points about a wise man (or woman) is that their paths are pleasant and peaceful, they speak in a way that is a light to those around them, they possess prudence and discretion, they don’t stir up conflict, and they speak to those who are ready to listen. And I’m not saying that sometimes action that might stir someone up isn’t necessary — because hey, Jesus whipped people, y’all — or that it’s always going to be the good life with no conflict or hardships.

But for me, I don’t think writing controversial blog posts is the way to go about sharing what I believe in regards to many things that I see other bloggers writing about. And again, not that I think they are always wrong in writing about what they think — some bloggers write in awesome ways that avoid bashing, hate, condescension, and ridicule. But it’s hard. It’s hard to make that post personal and loving and understandable when there’s no conversation going on before and after and during those words.

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So instead of writing about many aspects of my faith that prove hard to share without coming off as too judgmental or too tolerant or too goody-two-shoes or too passive, I’ll tell you what I really want you to know about what I believe.

I associate with Jesus. Not with Jesus Freaks. I believe in compassion and understanding, like the Jesus who loved on those people that nobody else would, healed the ones that no one else would touch, helped those who literally could not help themselves. I believe in second chances, just as He gave to the woman who had multiple affairs or the woman that all the religious people wanted to stone. I believe in seeing people as equals around me, just as He didn’t hold Himself in higher regard than anyone else, but in fact gave Himself up for a position that was the lowest of low, saved for the worst of men in His death. I believe in making friends, not stirring up enemies. I believe in sticking to my faith and not beating around the bush, as He did with those who thought they were so, so good and perfect but were really every bit in need of Him as those they thought to be beneath them.

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Shirt, belt, and skirt, thrifted | shoes, Modcloth

But most of all, I believe in being a person that anyone — no matter what they think or how they live — could come to openly and not be afraid of what I might think of them. And none of this means that I am wishy-washy or won’t stand by what I believe when it comes down to it. This doesn’t mean that I am a pushover faith-wise, or that I don’t have standards of right and wrong.

I believe that being a woman of faith, Jesus-like, if you will, is being someone approachable and careful with words. Someone who doesn’t just spout religious propaganda at everyone they think is wrong.  Someone who truly loves people. ALL people. No matter what their personal beliefs, past actions, or sexual orientation.

After all, John 3:16 doesn’t say Christ died for just the ones who followed the ten commandments and lived sin-free lives. It says He died for the world. He loved the world. Everyone. Everyone who ever lived, past, present, and future.

And that is the essence of why I don’t often blog about my faith. Because to share that love, whether it means compassion for someone is hurting or perhaps a hard truth for someone who needs to hear it, I need personal connection. I need to be able to express my friendship for them above all opposing beliefs and lifestyles, so that they know I’m not trying to judge or condemn them if they think they’re doing something I don’t agree with. Because I never am. I don’t think I’m better than anyone else just because I’m a Christian and they’re not, or I don’t do something they think is okay, or I tend towards more modest cuts and they prefer shorter hemlines. Truly and honestly, I don’t care about any of that. I care about the person. And I really can’t embody all of that in a blog post.

So, if you’re ever curious about my opinion on something that might seem controversial, ask me and I will do my best to answer. But I won’t do it publicly; I’ll email you, or Facebook message, or meet up for coffee, because I want to make sure you know that my personal faith has nothing to do with who you are, and I want to create open conversations that make both of us think about why we believe what we believe. And most of all, I want to show love in all that I say and do.


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